Parenting is Scary.
Parenting is scary my friends, and anyone that tells you otherwise is lying/deluded/the Super Nanny.
I obviously don’t want to put anyone that is expecting a baby or planning on starting a family off (actually if you are already expecting it is too late so maybe just take note and prepare yourself) but parenting scares the hell out of me on a regular basis.
Why? From the minute that your tiny package of love is handed to you, you become the parent.
For years, in fact, your whole life you have been the kid. You have been the one asking ‘Dad why is…..’ or ‘Mum how do you…..’ now all of a sudden, you are the one who has to answer those questions.
It is like a shift takes place that instance and right there and then you are the responsible one.
What a Difference a Year Makes.
So LT is a one-year-old now, yeah I said it, our baby is one whole year old!
You might think that this means that parenting is less scary, oh no no, this just adds to my fear.
Soon LT will be walking, this means that she will be standing up and transporting herself around our house. Any minute now I am off to B &Q to stock up on safety equipment like straps to fix all of our heavy stuff to the wall and those funny cupboard stopper things that every responsible parent has.
Being one means you get to go on swings, woohoo!
LT is eating now and this also brings a whole new level of danger. Cat food, a stone on the beach and some random bits of fluff from the floor are just some of the things that spring to mind that she has eaten or tried to eat so far and she is only 1 year’s old.
Then there are the jabs, immunisation jabs in themselves are enough to turn any super confident parent into a nervous wreck.
What are the side effects? Will she scream? Will she get a fever and not be able to sleep properly afterward?
All of these questions are met with the usual ‘just give her some Calpol’.
‘Just give her some Calpol’ is the standard response which translated means ‘I honestly have not got a clue and there is basically nothing that you can do anyway so just get on with it’.
Don’t get me wrong I am very thankful that we get immunisation jabs like this for free on our wonderful NHS but that does not make them any less scary for parents.
At times I feel like we have nailed parenting. Like tonight, I just managed to get LT to settle in her cot for the first time in 4 months.
Ever since she started teething for the second time, for some reason she just would not let me hold her and rock her to sleep.
This meant that every Thursday when Lorna is out I had to rock her back and forth in the buggy until she went off to sleep, then I had to use some ninja stealth moves to quietly transfer her to the cot without waking her up.
For anyone that has never spent an hour and a half getting a baby to sleep before trying to transfer them to a cot without waking them up I would probably describe this as one of the most fearful few minutes that you will experience in your adult life.
You know those movie scenes where the hero/cop/soldier is ever so carefully trying to disarm a bomb without it going off while the countdown clock is ticking away before it explodes and thousands of innocent victims die? Yeah, it is far more intense than that.
For the most part parenting makes me feel on top of the world. I wrote here about how good it felt to look after LT on my own for the first time and it seems like every week, sometimes every day she does something that makes us smile or laugh hysterically.
And being one means you get to play in your very own ball pit!
I think the fear that I experience is also due to being scared about getting it right.
I wonder am I doing this right, am I good enough, can I do more? I suppose the answer is that all any parent can do is be there, be present and be responsible.
As my dear old Dad would have always said ‘all that you can do is do your best’.
So yes parenting is scary but it is a good kind of scary, the rollercoaster kind of scary that makes you feel elated when you get to the end of the ride.
I am off to open a beer to celebrate my successful baby settling tonight; sometimes it is the small things in life that mean the most.
Until next time…..
be excellent to each other.
The Taylors. xx
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