A Tough Decision…!
Here I share my thoughts on the tough decision of leaving work.
Before having our little girl I worked full time for a travel company in Brighton organising College & University trips.
I’d been in my job for quite a few years and although it was quite stressful in our busy times I really enjoyed it and worked with a great team who have become good friends of mine. When I found out I was pregnant, I always thought I’d go back part time once my maternity leave ended.
I know a lot of people say that and don’t really mean it but I genuinely wanted to make it work so I could have the best of both; time with my little LT at home and still keep my foot in the door and have some sort of career.
My new office rocks!
A Moment of Realisation.
As the time got closer to when I was due back at work I began to realise that this probably wasn’t going to be the case. Perhaps Dave and I were a little bit optimistic with the cost of child care but once we started looking into it all we soon realised I’d be working to pay for nursery and be left with nothing.
It is strange because pre-children you always hear about others saying how expensive nurseries are and although I knew this, it wasn’t until you’re in that position that you realise how true this is.
After much deliberation, I made the decision to hand my notice in which was harder than I imagined. I knew it was what I wanted to do yet somehow there was a part of me that felt like I was losing out! Sounds silly but when you’ve worked somewhere for a long time and built up a relationship with colleagues and clients it almost feels like when I go back to it (which I hope I can one day), I’ll be starting right back at the beginning.
I do a different type of multitasking now!
I feel like there is a lot of pressure once you’ve had a baby to return back to work; people naturally assume you will and when you say you aren’t you often get “the look”. Perhaps its all in my head but since becoming a Mum you constantly feel judged by every decision you make.
I know I’ve made the right decision for us as a family and I’m very lucky that I can stay at home with LT. I’m fully aware that lots of families don’t have this luxury so I am not taking a minute of it for granted. I have friends that are going back to work part time and dreading the thought of leaving their little ones in nursery, something that I would also find extremely difficult if our circumstances were different.
Do I Get a Name Badge?
So, when people ask me my occupation what do I say now? I hate the term “stay at home Mum”. I am a Mum, yes, and although I don’t go off to work each day I definitely don’t stay at home much with LT. We are out and about as much as we can be. It’s definitely not a job but being a Mum is the best role I’ve ever had.
These kisses are the best pay cheque I ever had.
What has your experience of returning to work or choosing not to go back to work been like? I would love to hear from you so please drop a comment below.
Until next time….
Be excellent to each other.
The Taylors. xx
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